The four men on the show all agreed that they looked for a certain type of victim: one that trusted them and that would not tell on them. They charm the victim, they "groom" them and gain their trust.
They were manipulative in seducing the girls (as young as age 5). They started by doing simple things like back rubs, etc. As one molester said "I primed her by listening to her, then listen ting to her with my hand on her shoulder, then cuddling and listening to her."
A lot of times the victim feels its her fault because it feels good - and they think its their fault. They let it go on for years because its so shameful to tell anyone what's going on.
I know a woman who's mother died when she was nine. Her father started having sex with her soon after that up until she was 16 years old. She never told anyone until years later.
A lot of times the victims come from families where they are not well taken care of in the first place, those parents. This makes them candidates for molesters because they are starved for attention and/or affection. Some of the victims are angry with their parents because they feel neglected.
90% of molesters
are family or friends of the victim
We teach our children to watch out for strangers....but WE need to be able be watching out for people that pay attention to who is paying attention to our kids! Girls AND boys.
"Be on the alert. You don't have to mistrust everyone, but open your eyes and look around."
Molester: "I killed who she could have been."
So true.
You can check out the entire episode here.
And please check out this EXCELLENT RESOURCE on preventing the sexual abuse of children, Stop It Now.
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