Mark Michaels
This 57 year old choir director was caught in a car messing around with a 15 year old girl that was a member of his choir. You can read the full story here.
Monday, June 6, 2011
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Monday, April 25, 2011
Deputy Arrested for Sex With Minor
SAN BERNARDINO (KTLA) -- A San Bernardino County Sheriff's deputy was placed on leave Friday after he was charged for allegedly having sex with a minor.I'll keep you posted as this investigation moves forward. A reminder - I post these articles to warn people. We each have to be responsible for our own safety and can't necessarily trust even a police officer. Chances are this was consensual, but not necessarily. Either way it was illegal.
According to a press release, 10-year veteran Nathan Gastineau was arrested Friday night on a charge of lewd acts with a minor.
The department received information Friday morning that he may have had inappropriate relations with a 16-year-old girl.
Gastineau, 30, a Redlands resident, was booked into West Valley Detention Center.
He has been put on leave for the course of the investigation.
Friday, April 22, 2011
A Very Special Poem
This was written by one of my blog readers, she's given me permission to report it here. The timing is just happens to fit with something I am going to be writing about in the near future. Thank you, Persephone, for sharing this powerful and personal poem with all of us.
A Little Girl
Locked inside in a cold, dark, empty room away from the world to see
Cowers a little girl in a corner struggling to be free...
She is a child, a little girl of maybe seven or eight
Scarred from so many years of abuse and hate...
The unspeakable acts of violence she knows all too well
And knows too that she mustn't never ever tell...
For who would she tell and why would they care
She is so frightened she just reaches for her bear...
For what if she tells someone about it all and they did believe
Would that make it better or should she just continue to deceive...
They said it was her fault that she was to blame
She knows she is bad so why shouldn't others feel the same...
Why would anyone bother with her in any way
When she cannot even begin to know what to say...
The tears falling down her cheeks now like the rain
Her hurt showing now showing all the pain...
She sees her past now like a movie slide show
And she remembers each and every blow...
She sees it all now every single one as they had their turn
Her fear growing now her stomach even beginning to churn...
She watches each and every incident close but from afar
She doesn't have to look to find the scar...
The pain becoming stronger now filling every pore
It shakes her shakes her right down to her core...
She feels every violation, feels every pain, hears every word said
And deep down inside she wishes she was dead...
She knows a way to end the hurt, pain and tears
But this is the thing she probably most fears...
The razor laying next to her calling for her to come
Knowing that in its use there is release at least some...
She grabs it now its edges glinting like the sun
And she makes the long, deep cuts the blood beginning to run...
She's so ashamed now the deed is done
Knowing that yet again they won...
She's thinking now of what she has heard people say
That she deserved it in each and every way...
She stays in the corner now away from the light
Knowing that she doesn't have the strength to fight...
Sad, cold, alone, afraid, and crying
She feels like in some ways she is dying...
You might ask how do you know her so well
How is it that you have all this to tell...
Well I will tell you why I know
Is it not plain or does it not show...
I know that little girl very well you see
I know because that little girl lives inside of me.....
My little girl, Kayla
Locked inside in a cold, dark, empty room away from the world to see
Cowers a little girl in a corner struggling to be free...
She is a child, a little girl of maybe seven or eight
Scarred from so many years of abuse and hate...
The unspeakable acts of violence she knows all too well
And knows too that she mustn't never ever tell...
For who would she tell and why would they care
She is so frightened she just reaches for her bear...
For what if she tells someone about it all and they did believe
Would that make it better or should she just continue to deceive...
They said it was her fault that she was to blame
She knows she is bad so why shouldn't others feel the same...
Why would anyone bother with her in any way
When she cannot even begin to know what to say...
The tears falling down her cheeks now like the rain
Her hurt showing now showing all the pain...
She sees her past now like a movie slide show
And she remembers each and every blow...
She sees it all now every single one as they had their turn
Her fear growing now her stomach even beginning to churn...
She watches each and every incident close but from afar
She doesn't have to look to find the scar...
The pain becoming stronger now filling every pore
It shakes her shakes her right down to her core...
She feels every violation, feels every pain, hears every word said
And deep down inside she wishes she was dead...
She knows a way to end the hurt, pain and tears
But this is the thing she probably most fears...
The razor laying next to her calling for her to come
Knowing that in its use there is release at least some...
She grabs it now its edges glinting like the sun
And she makes the long, deep cuts the blood beginning to run...
She's so ashamed now the deed is done
Knowing that yet again they won...
She's thinking now of what she has heard people say
That she deserved it in each and every way...
She stays in the corner now away from the light
Knowing that she doesn't have the strength to fight...
Sad, cold, alone, afraid, and crying
She feels like in some ways she is dying...
You might ask how do you know her so well
How is it that you have all this to tell...
Well I will tell you why I know
Is it not plain or does it not show...
I know that little girl very well you see
I know because that little girl lives inside of me.....
My little girl, Kayla
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Sexual Assault at Denver Airport, Allegedly Ignored by Employees
A woman was attacked, thrown on floor of the concourse and raped. Three employees walked past and did nothing. A security guard finally came by and called police.
The airport spokesperson insists that the airport is safe. It wasn't safe for this young woman.
The airport spokesperson insists that the airport is safe. It wasn't safe for this young woman.
Sunday, April 10, 2011
A former San Clemente pastor pleaded not guilty
I recognize this "man" - I used to go to this church years ago and remember Pastor Joe. How interesting that he's chosen to pastor YOUTH. I wish I could say I was surprised. If I've said it once I've said it a million times: pedophiles seek out jobs or volunteer opportunities that give them access to children. BEWARE!
If I still believed in a loving God I'd ask him: "Why do you allow predators into your "family" to perpetrate the most heinous of crimes among your most innocent children?"
If I still believed in a loving God I'd ask him: "Why do you allow predators into your "family" to perpetrate the most heinous of crimes among your most innocent children?"
From the OCR:
A former San Clemente pastor pleaded not guilty Friday to sexually assaulting a 14-year-old girl more than a decade ago.
Joe David Nelms, 47, was extradited from Texas to face eight felony counts of lewd acts upon a child under 14, charges that he denied at his Friday arraignment, according to Orange County Superior Court records.
Joe Nelms.
COURTESY OF THE ORANGE COUNTY SHERIFF'S DEPARTMENT
Prosecutors allege Nelms met the girl in 1993 while working as a youth pastor at Pacific Coast Church in San Clemente. He is accused of sexually assaulting her over a three-year period.
Nelms left Orange County in 2000, becoming a bible study teacher and a counselor for high school students in Texas.
The girl reported the alleged sexual assault earlier this year after a friend she confided in urged her to go to authorities. Nelms was arrested at his Texas home March 18 and extradited to Orange County on Wednesday.
Nelms remains in custody at Orange County Jail in lieu of a $200,000 bail, according to Orange County Sheriff's Department records. He is scheduled to return to court May 2 for a pretrial hearing and a bail review.
Authorities say they know of at least one other person who they suspect was sexually assaulted by Nelms but have been unable to identify her. They are asking other potential victims to come forward, noting that the statute of limitations has not expired.
Saturday, March 19, 2011
The Psychology of Rape
This is an interesting article on the reasons behind rape and the types of men who commit rapes.
When I was in training we were taught that rape had nothing to do with sex - and everything to do with violence. I found that to be a very profound statement, but not all inclusive. I've always believed that some rapes were motivated by some sort of perverse sexual need. Of course these are no more justified than any type of rape, all of it is immoral and illegal.
What I found most disturbing in the article were the statisics:
When I was in training we were taught that rape had nothing to do with sex - and everything to do with violence. I found that to be a very profound statement, but not all inclusive. I've always believed that some rapes were motivated by some sort of perverse sexual need. Of course these are no more justified than any type of rape, all of it is immoral and illegal.
What I found most disturbing in the article were the statisics:
A recent study of 1,600 juvenile sexual assault offenders found:
- Just 33 percent of these boys perceived sex as a way to demonstrate love or caring;
- 23.5 percent believed that sex was a way to establish power and control;
- 9.4 percent found sex to be a good way to dissipate anger;
- 8.4 percent believed sex to be a way to punish others.
In a study of college men, 35 percent admitted they would violently rape a woman who had rejected a prior advance if they were assured of getting away with it. Many men and women believe a woman deserved rape if she was intoxicated, led the man on, or invited him into her bedroom. In a 2003 study, men who were highly competitive and win-oriented reported more sexual aggression and held beliefs that supported rape.
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
18 Men Rape 11 Year Old Girl
This story is one of the most horrifying I've heard in a long time and what makes it even more sickening is the fact that some are blaming the little girl!
Demetria Lucas has written an excellent article on Essence.com about this, you can read it here.
Demetria Lucas has written an excellent article on Essence.com about this, you can read it here.
Monday, March 14, 2011
Pastor guilty of molesting 14-year-old
SANTA ANA – A jury Monday found a San Clemente church pastor guilty of molesting a 14-year-old girl and sending her sexual e-mails.
Ricardo Avalos Maffey, 44, was convicted of five felony charges of lewd conduct with a child and one felony count of contacting a minor with intent to molest.
Ricardo Avalos Maffey
Maffey, a pastor at the Apostolic Christian Church in San Clemente, faces up to six years in prison for kissing and touching the girl on several occasions and sending sexually provocative e-mails to her between May and August 2008 at his sentencing on April 15.
"I am very happy for the victim and her family," Deputy District Attorney Jennifer Walker said after the decision by a jury of four women and eight men in Orange County Superior Court. It took the panel about 4½ hours to reach a verdict.
The pastor, who was a "quasi-father figure" to the girl, working closely with her in his office and spending time with her and her siblings at his home, became infatuated with her and was progressing toward a sexual relationship when her mother found out about it, Walker had told jurors.
"This case is about a violation of trust and a violation of the law," she said in her opening statement
Maffey, who works for the city of Santa Ana and had been out on bail since his arrest, was taken into custody after Judge Thomas N. Goethals listened to arguments from both sides as he weighed whether to release Maffey until sentencing.
Read story here.
Ricardo Avalos Maffey, 44, was convicted of five felony charges of lewd conduct with a child and one felony count of contacting a minor with intent to molest.
Ricardo Avalos Maffey
Maffey, a pastor at the Apostolic Christian Church in San Clemente, faces up to six years in prison for kissing and touching the girl on several occasions and sending sexually provocative e-mails to her between May and August 2008 at his sentencing on April 15.
"I am very happy for the victim and her family," Deputy District Attorney Jennifer Walker said after the decision by a jury of four women and eight men in Orange County Superior Court. It took the panel about 4½ hours to reach a verdict.
The pastor, who was a "quasi-father figure" to the girl, working closely with her in his office and spending time with her and her siblings at his home, became infatuated with her and was progressing toward a sexual relationship when her mother found out about it, Walker had told jurors.
"This case is about a violation of trust and a violation of the law," she said in her opening statement
Maffey, who works for the city of Santa Ana and had been out on bail since his arrest, was taken into custody after Judge Thomas N. Goethals listened to arguments from both sides as he weighed whether to release Maffey until sentencing.
Read story here.
Friday, March 11, 2011
Children's Book Author, Michael Snyder, Accused of Molesting Young Girl - ktla.com
Here's another one close to home:
Michael Snyder
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